Tag: life truths

  • were the world mine

    one thing i absolutely adore about the Sundance Film Festival, is how it surprises you every time! i happened upon one of the 2008 features to shine at Sundance, quite by accident. to tell the truth, i’m not exactly sure how it came about… maybe the faeries had a hand in it ;0)

    the film that has me glowing from within, today, is called: “were the world mine” and is directed by Tom Gustafson. i got a copy, thinking it was a basic retelling of Shakespeare’s Midsummer Night’s Dream – albeit with a queer twist. we watch a lot of movies at home these days, and i was looking forward to watching something a little less shock-shock-horror-horror or skop-skiet & donder* for a change.

    Literally "kick, shoot and thunder" in Afrikaans, this phrase is used by
    many English speakers to describe action movies or any activity which is
    lively and somewhat primitive. Clint Eastwood is always good for a skop,
    skiet en donder flick.

    Peter, however, wasn’t interested in watching it at all. maybe he has opinions about Sundance that i don’t know about… anyhoo – that’s another post entirely.

    suffice to say that i watched it by myself, this morning, while he was still sleeping off his late night session of Taiwanese talk-shows. (which, by the way, look like bucket-loads of fun – if you understand the language.)

    File:Were the world mine.jpg

    but back to the film: it was awesome! i laughed, i cried, i held a pillow for comfort and i felt all sorts of warm and fuzzy. it might not be the best produced musical in the world – but it’s way up there in my books!

    in short, it tells the story of an openly gay teenager in an all-boys school, in a conservative town – who gets cast as Puck in the school’s rendition of A Midsummer Night’s Dream. add a touch of magic and mischief – and voila! you’ve got one heck of a premise.

    oh, and let me not forget the singing! the singing and the dancing… *sigh* i think it’s officially taken the place of Priscilla in my heart. sorry girls, but this time i identify. and i’m gettng the soundtrack!

    *sings: o timothy… timothyyyyyyyy*

  • IDAHO 2009: One Voice, One Message, Heard Around the World.

    http://youtube.com/v/m2Rp8ep_ezE

    oh WOW!!! this came out sooooo cool! remember the IDAHO Challenge? well here’s the final video :0) 

    (I’m at 0:50 – and so happy to see the many SA submissions!)

    PS. although my vid was shot in Taiwan, I’m glad they didn’t add the Taiwanese flag. i fear that being a “foreigner” as the only voice from Taiwan could strengthen the island’s homophobic notions that being gay is not Taiwanese.

  • the IDAHO Challenge

    http://youtube.com/v/Xmjk7ma6nPk

    odd… i typed up a whole supporting post to accompany this video when I sent it from YouTube… wonder where it went?

    anyway, what i wanted to focus on was: why? why should anyone participate in these projects? well, there’s a nicely formatted answer on gays.com’s IDAHO page, for starters.

    my main sentiment is an echo of that offered by Harvey Milk in his Hope Speech. too many people all over the world have to live in the shadows for fear of persecution. conversely (or perversely, rather) too many people all over the world believe that homophobia is a God-given virtue. the first group fear their hearts – the second group hardly recognize the role of the heart in this matter.

    both groups NEED to realize that LGBTIQ people are normal human beings – and that they probably know, love and respect at least one of us. i firmly believe that each face in the light touches scores of faces in shadow. i believe that coming out and living openly is the best way to give hope to the oppressed – as well as shining light into the hearts of those who would vilify us. and like Harvey Milk:

    “I use the word “I” because I’m proud. I stand here tonight in front of my gay sisters, brothers and friends because I’m proud of you.” (along with my heterosexual family and friends who walk with me in light and love – i am proud of you too!)

    so why do i want to participate in public representations of gay pride?

    because we have to give them hope.

  • quotable quote

    Every new day is the beginning of the rest of your life.
    On each day you can make new choices on how to live it.
    –George J. Waggoner
  • 45 lessons – by Regina Brett

    today is my blog’s 2nd birthday – believe it or not ;0)
    part of moving house, however, means moving my DSL line – so I’m snapping up a few minutes from my breaktime at the buxiban!

    i got this list in my mailbox from my mother. hope you love it too:

    Written By Regina Brett, 50 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio:

    To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.
    It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written. My odometer rolled
    over to 50 in August, so here goes:

    1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good
    2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
    3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
    4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
    5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
    6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
    7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
    8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
    9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
    10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
    11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
    12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry
    13. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
    14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
    15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.
    16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
    17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
    18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
    19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
    20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
    21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
    22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
    23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
    24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
    25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
    26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years, will this matter?
    27. Always choose life.
    28. Forgive everyone everything.
    29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
    30. Time heals almost everything. Give time.
    31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
    32. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
    33. Believe in miracles.
    34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
    35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
    36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
    37. Your children get only one childhood.
    38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
    39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
    40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
    41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
    42. The best is yet to come.
    43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
    44. Yield.
    45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

  • repost from: The Wild Reed

    The Sufi Way


    For many people, whirling dervishes and the works of the thirteenth-century mystic and poet Jelaluddin Rumi are what come to mind whenever Sufism is mentioned. Related to these associations is the not uncommon belief that Sufism describes the mystical branch of Islam. Yet while there is truth to this, it’s an incomplete truth. For as celebrated British author Doris Lessing reminds us, “the Sufis are not a Muslim monopoly [as] the Sufi reality predates Islam [and] has always been introduced, secretly or openly, into every culture.” (1)

    Lessing (pictured at left) also notes that the word “Sufism” is not liked by Sufis as “they see it as a typical Western abstraction, away from the living reality of the Sufi Way, which is embodied in people.” (2) Furthermore, the actual word “Sufi,” Lessing observes, “is not necessary for a fresh introduction of Sufi feeling: many an activity or event or series of events has been Sufic, but no one has known it, perhaps not even the people involved. Many books have been for a Sufi purpose, the word never being used.” (3)

    The Sufi purpose

    Of course, all of this begs the question: what is the “Sufi purpose”?

    Well, according to Dr. Alan Godlas of the University of Georgia, the essence of Sufi purpose and practice is quite simple: “the Sufi surrenders to God, in love, over and over; which involves embracing with love at each moment the content of one’s consciousness (one’s perceptions, thoughts, and feelings, as well as one’s sense of self) as gifts of God or, more precisely, as manifestations of God.” (4)

    Not surprisingly, like all efforts related to experiencing and comprehending the love that is God, the Sufi Way infuses (and often transcends) the structures and practices of organized religion and is all about transformation and enlightenment; all about recognizing and distinguishing “the light” from the various screens that filter it. In this analogy of Doris Lessing’s, the screens represent various “national or historical cultural patterns,” (including those structures and practices of organized religion) whereas the light stands for “a truth which is central to humanity.” (5) For as Lessing reminds us, “the word ‘light’ has been used in every mystic tradition as a symbol for God, the Absolute, the Beloved, the King, the Simurgh, Truth, Life of the World – a hundred other terms.” (6)

    In the 1960s, Lessing was a student of the Sufi teacher Idries Shah, who is credited with playing a major role in introducing Western audiences to the Sufi Way as a form of universal wisdom. In many of her writings – both fiction and non-fiction – Lessing addresses questions related to the meaning and purpose of this understanding of the Sufi Way. One of the most direct of these writings is her 1996 article “Summing Up: When Idries Shah Died,” in which she acknowledges that “people are always asking, ‘But what is Sufism, what are the Sufis, surely it can be put into a few words?’”

    In response to this foundational question, Lessing notes:

    There are some statements, almost aphorisms [that I can offer]: for instance that in every human being is an initially tiny, precious, shining thing, capable of development, which can bring her or him to fulfillment. Or, that the Sufi truth is at the core of every religion, its heart, and religions are only the outward vestments of an inner reality. This last is helpful to people like myself, who find it hard to see religions anything more than systems of indoctrination with perennial tendencies towards the persecution of differently thinking people. (7)

    A gradation of understanding

    In his book, The Way of the Sufi, Idries Shah shares the tale of how Moses rebuked a man for offering to comb God’s hair, wash His robe, and kiss His head. God, however, rebuked Moses saying: “Thou hast driven away a worshipper from the nearest to Me that he could approach. There is a gradation in all men: each will perceive what he can perceive and at the stage at which he can perceive it.” (8)

    Lessing takes from this story the message that “one religion is not better than another: each is an expression of local needs,” and that: “beyond religion, most of whose practices are the ethics of the society in which it operates codified, is a range where experience becomes more complex than the rigidities of good/bad, black/white.” (9)

    I can certainly relate to these observations, yet when I reflect upon God’s response to Moses in the story told by Idries Shah, I cannot help but think of the inability of the Roman Catholic hierarchy to perceive God in the lives and relationships of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people. Indeed, when it comes to issues of gender and sexuality, members of the hierarchy (along with those who uncritically accept everything they say) seem to be stuck at an underdeveloped stage in a gradation of understanding and perception. I must admit that it’s often a struggle for me to see such entrenched people as “worshipers” of a God of love and liberation.

    Yet regardless of what I think, these folks (my brothers and sisters, I constantly remind myself) definitely see their efforts to, for instance, promulgate teachings that malign homosexuality and its expression by insisting that they are the results of humanity’s “fallen” state, as a way of displaying their obedience to what they actually believe to be God’s truth. Such unquestioning obedience, I’ve discovered, is what they understand as the hallmark of faithful worship of God. Of course, such a hallmark implies that we have all the answers – here and now; and that the human endeavor isn’t about journeying and developing, but about hankering down and safe-guarding “the (one and only) truth.”

    Don’t get me wrong, there will always be aspects of our experience – certain insights, developments, and truth claims – that are worth safe-guarding. That being said, I have to say that much of the Roman Catholic Church’s stated understanding of gender and sexuality is definitely not something I consider worth supporting or defending. (For a start, such understanding is unreasonable – and any understanding or teaching that claims any kind of respect, or claims its authority in the concept of “natural law,” must be reasonable.)

    A catholic reality

    I’m not in the least bit interested in circling the wagons and unquestioningly defending the hierarchy’s unreasonable theology of human sexuality – one that in its intentional failure to be mindful of and informed by the collective wisdom of the people of God, is not only unreasonable but also immoral. No, I’m much more interested in moving the caravan forward; in acknowledging and getting on with our journey as a pilgrim church – a community still very much in process, still very much discovering the ever-unfolding truth of God within, among, and around us.

    This probably accounts for my growing interest in the Sufi Way, that way of perceiving and being in the world that understands true worship of the Sacred as an openness to growth and change, as a trusting willingness to engage with “the light” as manifested in the lives and relationships of all.

    Of course, those fearful of growth and change may angrily dismiss the Sufi Way as some kind of “New Age” fad. Yet, in reality, the Sufi Way is the life force of all authentic religion. For as Rumi scholar and translator Coleman Banks reminds us, the Sufi Way, the “love way” is not religious; rather, it’s the “origin and longing inside religiousness.” (10) Thus one way I’ve come to understand the Sufi Way is as a religious sensibility, a way of engaging self, others, and the Sacred that, as Shah, Lessing, Coleman, and others have noted, is at the heart of all religions. (It brings a smile to my face to think that this universality makes the Sufi Way a truly catholic reality – “catholic,” after all, means “universal.”)

    Consciousness, conscience, and compassion

    In light of this universality of the Sufi Way, Doris Lessing writes:

    A question like: “But what about a personal God, and the importance of this to so many people?” falls away. St. Theresa of Avila experienced “his Majesty.” St. Theresa the Little Flower talked of “My little Jesus.” A crazy person may say “I am God” – but so did Hallaj, one of the greatest Sufis of all time, who was judicially murdered because he said, in a mystic state: “I am the Truth.” A Spanish peasant girl sees a vision of the Virgin. Sorcerers raise the Devil, horns and all – Spanish St. Theresa saw the Devil until she had got past that stage. Adam and Noah, Abraham and Moses talked with God, in a way which sounds like son with loving father. In India there is a hierarchy of deities which are experienced in the stages of the Hindu disciples. An African witchdoctor experiences God according to the realities of his part of the continent. The modern astronomer has his moments of vision when the skies his mind inhabits become a mirror for something beyond. The light can do no other than fall in the patterns of the screens – the mind of the experiencing person, which has been formed, been set, by his culture, his experience, his prejudices.

    Again and again one is returned to this point: one can do no more than start from where one is. And it is not an unuseful exercise to use this thought in an effort to find out where that is.

    Or as [Idries] Shah puts it: “If you are uninterested in what I say, there’s an end to it. If you like what I say, please try to understand which previous influences have made you like it. If you like some of the things I say and dislike others, you could try to understand why. If you dislike all I say, why not try to find out what has formed your attitude?” (11)

    Yes, it’s all about growing in consciousness, in self-awareness; all about seeking the light beyond all our humanly-constructed (and often arrogantly and fearfully defended) “screens.” I for one like what teachers such as Idries Shah have to say. I also appreciate the efforts of folks like Doris Lessing and Coleman Barks to articulate in everyday language the wisdom of the Sufi Way. I plan on further exploring this way in an ongoing series of posts at The Wild Reed. In particular, I want to explore the Sufi Way and its connections to Christianity (including the idea of Jesus as a Sufi Master*) as well as the Sufi Way and homosexuality.

    Interestingly, I was originally going to title this series, “Contemplating the Sufi Way,” but once I began researching and writing, I soon realized that I’m doing much more than contemplating. I’m already walking the Sufi Way, as are all of us who are striving to live lives of consciousness, conscience, and compassion; we just may not have realized that this term, one among many, exists to name this journey toward union with the Sacred – a journey that is both intimately personal and universal.

    One went to the door of the Beloved and knocked. A voice asked: “Who is there?” He answered: “It is I.” The voice said: “There is no room here for me and thee.” The door was shut. After a year of solitude and deprivation this man returned to the door of the Beloved. He knocked. A voice from within asked: “Who is there?” The man said: “It is Thou.” The door was opened to him.

    – Rumi


    * Chuck Lofy touches on these interesting questions about Christianity and the Sufi Way when, during the interview I conducted with him in 2005, he noted that Jesus said, “I come to cast fire on the earth,” and how, in Christian terms, “this ‘fire’ is the symbol of the Holy Spirit, the guiding and illuminating Spirit that according to the great religious traditions, is deep within all of us. The ‘spark’ comes when we recognize and affirm ourselves as one with this Spirit.”

    1-3. Lessing, D. “Summing Up: When Idries Shah Died.” Daily Telegraph, November 23, 1996. (Also reprinted in Lessing, D. Time Bites: Views and Reviews. Harper Perennial, New York, 2004.
    4. Godlas, A. “Sufism’s Many Paths” at http://www.uga.edu/islam/Sufism.html.
    5-6. Lessing, D. “The Sufis” (first published in Books and Bookmen) in Time Bites: Views and Reviews. Harper Perennial, New York, 2004.
    7. Lessing D. “Summing Up: When Idries Shah Died.” Daily Telegraph, November 23, 1996.
    8. Shah, I. The Way of the Sufi. Penguin Books, 1991 (reprint).
    9. Lessing, D. “The Sufis” (first published in Books and Bookmen) in Time Bites: Views and Reviews. Harper Perennial, New York, 2004.
    10. Barks, C. Rumi: The Book of Love – Poems of Ecstasy and Longing. Harper San Francisco, 2003.
    11. Lessing, D. “The Sufis” (first published in Books and Bookmen) in Time Bites: Views and Reviews. Harper Perennial, New York, 2004.

    Recommended Off-site Links:
    The International Sufi Movement
    Sufi News and Sufism World Report
    Sufis Without Borders
    The Threshold Society

    Recommended Online Articles:
    Rumi and Sufism: Examining Islamic Spiritual Science in the Modern Age – Wajahat Ali (Goatmilk, June 10, 2008).
    Christian and Islamic Mysticism – Thom Curnutte (Ad Dominum, January 2, 2009).
    A Glimpse of Oneness for a Change – Joan Chittister (National Catholic Reporter, November 26, 2008).
    Gay Muslims Reveal Different Evolutionary Stages of Faith Development – Joe Perez (MyOutSpirit.com, November 8, 2007).
    The Mysterious Potential Hiding in Our Pain – Tom Esch (Progressive Catholic Voice, April 2008).

    See also the previous Wild Reed posts:
    In the Garden of Spirituality: Doris Lessing
    My Travels with Doris
    Keeping the Spark Alive: Conversing with “Modern Mystic” Chuck Lofy
    In the Garden of Spirituality: Paulo Coelho
    The Road to Love: Coming Out in Africa and the Middle East
    The Many Manifestations of God’s Loving Embrace
    The Sacred Heart: “Mystical Symbol of Love”

  • quotable quote

    When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny.

    -Paulo Coelho

  • songs of power

    there are songs in the world, that are more than the sum of their parts.
    sometimes the lyrics make no sense on their own.
    sometimes the melody is downright dreary.
    but sometimes – unexpectedly
    there is magic!

    Clive’s brilliant post about the movie “As it is in Heaven”, gifted me with a YouTube clip of one of my all time favorite, soul-revitalizers: Gabriella’s Song.

    many have raised eyebrows after listening to it, some have even questioned my sanity. thankfully – there are others who also sparkle when it plays :0)

    [youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rGAHflzfACo&hl=en&fs=1&w=425&h=344]

    if you still haven’t seen this movie – i think it’s time.

  • walking on sunshine

    having posted the list of tips to a better life – i decided to really implement them for a change. not just in a “nice thought” kind of way – as i usually “implement” so much of the wisdom that i stumble across.

    so let’s look at what i’m already doing – and where i can improve:
    1. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.

    i walk more than i used to in SA, and most stints last about 10 minutes *lol* Okay, sometimes 7 minutes. but i always smile – it keeps the locals happy to see the teacher smiling ;0) i think i’ll push the average up to close to 30 – as i’m always filled with an enormous sense of well-being after smiling at the world whilst wandering about.

    2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

    this is not difficult for me to do – some would argue that it’s too easy for me sometimes. but especially since i started teaching, taking 10 minute breaks in silence has become a necessity for sanity.

    3. Sleep for 7 hours.

    admittedly i usually get about 8 hours of sleep per night – when i’m not soaring or plummeting the extremes of my bipolar nature, that is. perhaps i should shave them to 7 and see what happens?

    4. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.

    i’ve got Empathy down pat. will have to work on the Enthusiasm, which will surely sort the Energy out too.

    5. Play more games.

    hmm… honestly, outside of school i don’t play any games. i should start. i do have a deck of cards here somewhere…

    6. Read more books than you did the previous year.

    way ahead here! just bought a new Paulo Coelho on sunday :0)

    7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.

    meditation and prayer are pretty much one and the same thing for me – and part of every moment of my life. yoga… erm… problem is finding an instructor that speaks English. cool – i’ll make this one (or Tai Chi) a priority for summer.

    8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.

    i teach kindergarten ;0) getting into the over 70 crowd will require serious improvement in my Chinese ability.

    9. Dream more while you are awake.

    no problem there – doing it all the time.

    10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.

    doing famously since moving here! daily fruit intake has gone up by 100% and dinner is always rice-based *lol*

    11. Drink plenty of water.

    getting there – though i still “substitute” with oolong tea…

    12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.

    okay, so my kids at kindergarten are easy. does it have to be three different people every day – or does my rice lady and the buxiban staff count?

    13. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.

    i’m sooo out of the loop anyway.

    14. Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.

    difficult one – but i’m willing to keep working on it!

    15. Don’t have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

    aha! here is one where i need to be more mindful of what i allow into my head-space. admittedly i still have some threads of nastiness i cling to – above and beyond the negative thoughts associated with bipolar depression.

    16. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

    this very nearly captures the entirety of my personal philosophy on life.

    17. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.

    right – so i currently have yogurt, rice rolls and tea for breakfast, big lunch at school and one portion of “chicken rice” with a “green egg” for dinner… looks like i’ll have to up my breakfast and downgrade my dinner slightly ;0)

    18. Smile and laugh more.

    and more and more – every day. good idea, methinks.

    19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.

    no hating – gotcha!

    20. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

    i need to remind myself of this more often. maybe make a poster of it on my door?

    21. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

    this is so true – and something i try to implement whenever the situation arises. (note: “try”)

    22. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.

    part of my 12 step program too ;0)

    23. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don’t compare your partner with others.

    i thank my Mom for teaching me this one when i was little!

    24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

    in more ways than i care to admit!

    25. Forgive everyone for everything.

    a daily task i gladly take on.

    26. What other people think of you is none of your business.

    and i wish i could remember that more often than not!

    27. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

    change is, after all, the one thing you can bet on ;0)

    28. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

    NB! NB! NB! i’ve been really awful at keeping in touch these last few months.

    29. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

    done *lol* welcome to expat living!

    30. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

    another one for the poster on my door.

    31. The best is yet to come.

    i should have this as a screen saver on my mobile!

    32. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

    happy meds or no ;0)

    33. Do the right thing!

    even if it hurts.

    34. Call your family often.

    thank Heaven for Skype!

    35. Your inner most is always happy. So be happy.

    worth reminding myself when Aunty Debra (Debbie Downer) pops ’round.

    36. Each day give something good to others.

    love and respect are the best – and they’re free!

    37. Don’t over do. Keep your limits.

    another one for the poster!

    38. Share this with someone you care about ;0)

    hehe – i blogged this, didn’t i ;0)

    love ya!

  • Tips for a better life

    1. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.

    2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

    3. Sleep for 7 hours.

    4. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.

    5. Play more games.

    6. Read more books than you did the previous year.

    7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.

    8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.

    9. Dream more while you are awake.

    10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.

    11. Drink plenty of water.

    12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.

    13. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.

    14. Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.

    15. Don’t have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

    16. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

    17. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.

    18. Smile and laugh more.

    19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.

    20. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

    21. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

    22. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.

    23. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don’t compare your partner with others.

    24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

    25. Forgive everyone for everything.

    26. What other people think of you is none of your business.

    27. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

    28. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

    29. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

    30. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

    31. The best is yet to come.

    32. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

    33. Do the right thing!

    34. Call your family often.

    35. Your inner most is always happy. So be happy.

    36. Each day give something good to others.

    37. Don’t over do. Keep your limits.

    38. Share this with someone you care about ;0)

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