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  • Meme: It’s not really fall until…

    here’s a meme i got over at Sunday Stealing – just to get me back in the swing of blogging.enjoy ;0)
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    1) What did you need to do in the waning days of summer for it to feel complete?

    swim in the ocean – which I haven’t done yet.

    2)A person I know was wrong for me but about whom I frequently thought after a break-up was…

    *lol* the person who kinda fits the criteria never dated me, so there was no real break-up… let’s just leave it at that, shall we?

    3) If you could only attend one major sporting event what would it be?

    the gay games – for the fun of it!

    4) Assuming that you write an anonymous or partially anonymous blog, by what non-physically identifying characteristics might you be identified in a bar?

    uhm… probably won’t be in a bar (walking in dry places)… what would work here? i’ll take a cue from Geoff and say “my voice” (and to make it “non-physical” let’s contextualize this as my “flavor”).

    5) Most blogs cover some sort of niche – personal, political, dating, culinary, etc. What topic, if any, would you like to address on your blog but doesn’t fit into your niche?

    olfactory overload (sure like the sound of that)

    6) If you could manipulate the time space continuum and give as many as three pieces of advice to a younger version of yourself, what advice would you give and to what age of you?

    @ around 5 years of age: believe in the life you prayed for – it is coming!
    @ around 12 years of age: you are perfect exactly as you are. live your truth!
    @ around 19 years of age: forget about making anybody else happy – study the arts (design & education).

    7) Who among your friends do you really wish had a blog because their stories, or perspective on something ought to be shared?

    A) Luzanne – her perspective truly ought to be shared.
    B) Karl – his exploits would make great reading!
    C) my Dad – because he rocks on so many levels.

    8) If you were to take an e-cation (vacation from the trappings of our electronic world,) and assuming that employment obligations would allow it, how long of a break could you take? What would you miss the most, the least?

    with Peter by my side, i’m pretty confident i could last a couple of months (unfortunately though, he would barely last a weekend).
    miss the most: music
    miss the least: work e-mail.

    9) On September 11th of this year, I attended a couple of parties and was somewhat conflicted by the fact that this ignoble anniversary shall pass with it being just another day in the eyes of many (and in some ways my own eyes as well.) Thoughts?

    live in the light – and in the present. anniversaries are for lovers ;0)

    10) How high are your walls? Who was the last person to scale them? What tools should would-be climbers have on their belt?

    walls? i broke those down after Peter leaped them in a single bound!
    would-be climbers would need a different target (awww schweet)

    11) The sexiest thing a man or a woman can say to you (or has said to you) is:

    “Dance with me.”

  • the "real life" i renounce – an elaboration

    so I recently renounced the popular concept of “real life”.

    to clarify, i’m talking about the concept of reality enforced by statements like:

    – “that’s a nice dream, but in real life you’ll find there’s no such thing”
    – “wake up and get real”
    – “in the real world” followed by some variation about the inevitability of suffering.
    i’m talking about a place where (as Paulo Coelho so neatly put it) these are considered normal:

    1] Anything that makes us forget our true identity and our dreams and makes us only work to produce and reproduce.

    2] Making rules for a war (the Geneva Convention).

    3] Spending years at university and then not being able to find a job.

    4] Working from nine in the morning to five in the afternoon at something that does not give us the least pleasure, so that we can retire after 30 years.

    5] Retiring only to discover that we have no more energy to enjoy life, and then dying of boredom after a few years.

    6] Using Botox.

    7] Trying to be financially successful instead of seeking happiness.

    8] Ridiculing those who seek happiness instead of money by calling them “people with no ambition”.

    9] Comparing objects like cars, houses and clothes, and defining life according to these comparisons instead of really trying to find out the true reason for being alive.

    10] Not talking to strangers. Saying nasty things about our neighbors.

    11] Thinking that parents are always right.

    12] Getting married, having children and staying together even though the love has gone, claiming that it’s for the sake of the children (who do not seem to be listening to the constant arguments).

    12ª] Criticizing everybody who tries to be different.

    14] Waking up with a hysterical alarm-clock at the bedside.

    15] Believing absolutely everything that is printed.

    16] Wearing a piece of colored cloth wrapped around the neck for no apparent reason and known by the pompous name “necktie”.

    17] Never asking direct questions, even though the other person understands what you want to know.

    18] Keeping a smile on your face when you really want to cry. And feeling sorry for those who show their own feelings.

    19] Thinking that art is worth a fortune, or else that it is worth absolutely nothing.

    20] Always despising what was easily gained, because the “necessary sacrifice” – and therefore also the required qualities – are missing.

    21] Following fashion, even though it all looks ridiculous and uncomfortable.

    22] Being convinced that all the famous people have tons of money saved up.

    23] Investing a lot in exterior beauty and paying little attention to interior beauty.

    24] Using all possible means to show that even though you are a normal person, you are infinitely superior to other human beings.

    25] In any kind of public transport, never looking straight into the eyes of the other passengers, as this may be taken for attempting to seduce them.

    26] When you enter an elevator, looking straight at the door and pretending you are the only person inside, however crowded it may be.

    27] Never laughing out loud in a restaurant, no matter how funny the story is.

    28] In the Northern hemisphere, always wearing the clothes that match the season of the year: short sleeves in springtime (however cold it may be) and a woolen jacket in the fall (no matter how warm it is).

    29] In the Southern hemisphere, decorating the Christmas tree with cotton wool, even though winter has nothing to do with the birth of Christ.

    30] As you grow older, thinking you are the wisest man in the world, even though not always do you have enough life experience to know what is wrong.

    31] Going to a charity event and thinking that in this way you have collaborated enough to put an end to all the social inequalities in the world.

    32] Eating three times a day, even if you’re not hungry.

    33] Believing that the others are always better at everything: they are better-looking, more resourceful, richer and more intelligent. Since it’s very risky to venture beyond your own limits, it’s better to do nothing.

    34] Using the car as a way to feel powerful and in control of the world.

    35] Using foul language in traffic.

    36] Thinking that everything your child does wrong is the fault of the company he or she is keeping.

    37] Marrying the first person who offers you a position in society. Love can wait.

    38] Always saying “I tried”, even though you haven’t tried at all.

    39] Putting off doing the most interesting things in life until you no longer have the strength to do them.

    40] Avoiding depression with massive daily doses of television programs.

    41] Believing that it is possible to be sure of everything you have won.

    42] Thinking that women don’t like football and that men don’t like interior decoration.

    43] Blaming the government for everything bad that happens.

    44] Being convinced that being a good, decent and respectful person means that the others will find you weak, vulnerable and easy to manipulate.

    45] Being convinced that aggressiveness and discourtesy in treating others are signs of a powerful personality

    and this reality, dear reader, is not where i choose to be.
    more to follow…
  • foreigners are funny

    i had a good bucketful of chuckles while reading this post from Mel’s blog:

    enjoy!
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    Subject: World Cup 2010… Questions from tourists

    These questions about South Africa were posted on a South African Tourism Website and were answered by the website owner (great sense of humour!).

    Q: Does it ever get windy in South Africa? I have never seen it rain on TV, so how do the plants grow? (UK)

    A: We import all plants fully grown and then just sit around watching them die.

    Q: Will I be able to see elephants in the street? (USA)

    A: Depends how much you’ve been drinking.

    Q: I want to walk from Durban to Cape Town – can I follow the railroad tracks? (Sweden)

    A: Sure, it’s only two thousand kilometres take lots of water…

    Q: Is it safe to run around in the bushes in South Africa? (Sweden)

    A: So it’s true what they say about Swedes…

    Q: Are there any ATMs (cash machines) in South Africa? Can you send me a list of them in JHB, Cape Town, Knysna and Jeffrey’s Bay? (UK)

    A: What did your last slave die of?

    Q: Can you give me some information about Koala Bear racing in South Africa? (USA)

    A: Aus-tra-lia is that big island in the middle of the pacific.

    A-fri-ca is the big triangle shaped continent south of Europe which does not…oh forget it. Sure, the Koala Bear racing is every Tuesday night in Hillbrow. Come naked.

    Q: Which direction is north in South Africa? (USA)

    A: Face south and then turn 90 degrees. Contact us when you get here and we’ll send the rest of the directions.

    Q: Can I bring cutlery into South Africa? (UK)

    A: Why? Just use your fingers like we do.

    Q: Can you send me the Vienna Boys’ Choir schedule? (USA)

    A: Aus-tri-a is that quaint little country bordering Ger-man-y, which is… oh forget it. Sure, the Vienna Boys Choir plays every Tuesday night in Hillbrow, straight after the Koala Bear races. Come naked.

    Q: Do you have perfume in South Africa? (France)

    A: No, WE don’t stink.

    Q: I have developed a new product that is the fountain of youth. Can you tell me where I can sell it in South Africa? (USA)

    A: Anywhere where a significant number of Americans gather.

    Q: Can you tell me the regions in South Africa where the female population is smaller than the male population? (Italy)

    A: Yes, gay nightclubs.

    Q: Do you celebrate Christmas in South Africa? (France)

    A: Only at Christmas.

    Q: Are there killer bees in South Africa? (Germany)

    A: Not yet, but for you, we’ll import them.

    Q: Are there supermarkets in Cape Town and is milk available all year round?

    A: No, we are a peaceful civilisation of vegan hunter-gatherers. Milk is illegal.

    Q: Please send a list of all doctors in South Africa who can di spense rattlesnake serum. (USA)

    A: Rattlesnakes live in A-meri-ca, which is where YOU come from. All South African snakes are perfectly harmless, can be safely handled and make good pets.

    Q: I was in South Africa in 1969, and I want to contact the girl I dated while I was staying in Hillbrow. Can you help? (USA)

    A: Yes, but you will probably still have to pay her by the hour.

    Q: Will I be able to speek English most places I go? (USA)

    A: Yes, but you’ll have to learn it first.

  • repost from: The Wild Reed

    The Sufi Way


    For many people, whirling dervishes and the works of the thirteenth-century mystic and poet Jelaluddin Rumi are what come to mind whenever Sufism is mentioned. Related to these associations is the not uncommon belief that Sufism describes the mystical branch of Islam. Yet while there is truth to this, it’s an incomplete truth. For as celebrated British author Doris Lessing reminds us, “the Sufis are not a Muslim monopoly [as] the Sufi reality predates Islam [and] has always been introduced, secretly or openly, into every culture.” (1)

    Lessing (pictured at left) also notes that the word “Sufism” is not liked by Sufis as “they see it as a typical Western abstraction, away from the living reality of the Sufi Way, which is embodied in people.” (2) Furthermore, the actual word “Sufi,” Lessing observes, “is not necessary for a fresh introduction of Sufi feeling: many an activity or event or series of events has been Sufic, but no one has known it, perhaps not even the people involved. Many books have been for a Sufi purpose, the word never being used.” (3)

    The Sufi purpose

    Of course, all of this begs the question: what is the “Sufi purpose”?

    Well, according to Dr. Alan Godlas of the University of Georgia, the essence of Sufi purpose and practice is quite simple: “the Sufi surrenders to God, in love, over and over; which involves embracing with love at each moment the content of one’s consciousness (one’s perceptions, thoughts, and feelings, as well as one’s sense of self) as gifts of God or, more precisely, as manifestations of God.” (4)

    Not surprisingly, like all efforts related to experiencing and comprehending the love that is God, the Sufi Way infuses (and often transcends) the structures and practices of organized religion and is all about transformation and enlightenment; all about recognizing and distinguishing “the light” from the various screens that filter it. In this analogy of Doris Lessing’s, the screens represent various “national or historical cultural patterns,” (including those structures and practices of organized religion) whereas the light stands for “a truth which is central to humanity.” (5) For as Lessing reminds us, “the word ‘light’ has been used in every mystic tradition as a symbol for God, the Absolute, the Beloved, the King, the Simurgh, Truth, Life of the World – a hundred other terms.” (6)

    In the 1960s, Lessing was a student of the Sufi teacher Idries Shah, who is credited with playing a major role in introducing Western audiences to the Sufi Way as a form of universal wisdom. In many of her writings – both fiction and non-fiction – Lessing addresses questions related to the meaning and purpose of this understanding of the Sufi Way. One of the most direct of these writings is her 1996 article “Summing Up: When Idries Shah Died,” in which she acknowledges that “people are always asking, ‘But what is Sufism, what are the Sufis, surely it can be put into a few words?’”

    In response to this foundational question, Lessing notes:

    There are some statements, almost aphorisms [that I can offer]: for instance that in every human being is an initially tiny, precious, shining thing, capable of development, which can bring her or him to fulfillment. Or, that the Sufi truth is at the core of every religion, its heart, and religions are only the outward vestments of an inner reality. This last is helpful to people like myself, who find it hard to see religions anything more than systems of indoctrination with perennial tendencies towards the persecution of differently thinking people. (7)

    A gradation of understanding

    In his book, The Way of the Sufi, Idries Shah shares the tale of how Moses rebuked a man for offering to comb God’s hair, wash His robe, and kiss His head. God, however, rebuked Moses saying: “Thou hast driven away a worshipper from the nearest to Me that he could approach. There is a gradation in all men: each will perceive what he can perceive and at the stage at which he can perceive it.” (8)

    Lessing takes from this story the message that “one religion is not better than another: each is an expression of local needs,” and that: “beyond religion, most of whose practices are the ethics of the society in which it operates codified, is a range where experience becomes more complex than the rigidities of good/bad, black/white.” (9)

    I can certainly relate to these observations, yet when I reflect upon God’s response to Moses in the story told by Idries Shah, I cannot help but think of the inability of the Roman Catholic hierarchy to perceive God in the lives and relationships of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people. Indeed, when it comes to issues of gender and sexuality, members of the hierarchy (along with those who uncritically accept everything they say) seem to be stuck at an underdeveloped stage in a gradation of understanding and perception. I must admit that it’s often a struggle for me to see such entrenched people as “worshipers” of a God of love and liberation.

    Yet regardless of what I think, these folks (my brothers and sisters, I constantly remind myself) definitely see their efforts to, for instance, promulgate teachings that malign homosexuality and its expression by insisting that they are the results of humanity’s “fallen” state, as a way of displaying their obedience to what they actually believe to be God’s truth. Such unquestioning obedience, I’ve discovered, is what they understand as the hallmark of faithful worship of God. Of course, such a hallmark implies that we have all the answers – here and now; and that the human endeavor isn’t about journeying and developing, but about hankering down and safe-guarding “the (one and only) truth.”

    Don’t get me wrong, there will always be aspects of our experience – certain insights, developments, and truth claims – that are worth safe-guarding. That being said, I have to say that much of the Roman Catholic Church’s stated understanding of gender and sexuality is definitely not something I consider worth supporting or defending. (For a start, such understanding is unreasonable – and any understanding or teaching that claims any kind of respect, or claims its authority in the concept of “natural law,” must be reasonable.)

    A catholic reality

    I’m not in the least bit interested in circling the wagons and unquestioningly defending the hierarchy’s unreasonable theology of human sexuality – one that in its intentional failure to be mindful of and informed by the collective wisdom of the people of God, is not only unreasonable but also immoral. No, I’m much more interested in moving the caravan forward; in acknowledging and getting on with our journey as a pilgrim church – a community still very much in process, still very much discovering the ever-unfolding truth of God within, among, and around us.

    This probably accounts for my growing interest in the Sufi Way, that way of perceiving and being in the world that understands true worship of the Sacred as an openness to growth and change, as a trusting willingness to engage with “the light” as manifested in the lives and relationships of all.

    Of course, those fearful of growth and change may angrily dismiss the Sufi Way as some kind of “New Age” fad. Yet, in reality, the Sufi Way is the life force of all authentic religion. For as Rumi scholar and translator Coleman Banks reminds us, the Sufi Way, the “love way” is not religious; rather, it’s the “origin and longing inside religiousness.” (10) Thus one way I’ve come to understand the Sufi Way is as a religious sensibility, a way of engaging self, others, and the Sacred that, as Shah, Lessing, Coleman, and others have noted, is at the heart of all religions. (It brings a smile to my face to think that this universality makes the Sufi Way a truly catholic reality – “catholic,” after all, means “universal.”)

    Consciousness, conscience, and compassion

    In light of this universality of the Sufi Way, Doris Lessing writes:

    A question like: “But what about a personal God, and the importance of this to so many people?” falls away. St. Theresa of Avila experienced “his Majesty.” St. Theresa the Little Flower talked of “My little Jesus.” A crazy person may say “I am God” – but so did Hallaj, one of the greatest Sufis of all time, who was judicially murdered because he said, in a mystic state: “I am the Truth.” A Spanish peasant girl sees a vision of the Virgin. Sorcerers raise the Devil, horns and all – Spanish St. Theresa saw the Devil until she had got past that stage. Adam and Noah, Abraham and Moses talked with God, in a way which sounds like son with loving father. In India there is a hierarchy of deities which are experienced in the stages of the Hindu disciples. An African witchdoctor experiences God according to the realities of his part of the continent. The modern astronomer has his moments of vision when the skies his mind inhabits become a mirror for something beyond. The light can do no other than fall in the patterns of the screens – the mind of the experiencing person, which has been formed, been set, by his culture, his experience, his prejudices.

    Again and again one is returned to this point: one can do no more than start from where one is. And it is not an unuseful exercise to use this thought in an effort to find out where that is.

    Or as [Idries] Shah puts it: “If you are uninterested in what I say, there’s an end to it. If you like what I say, please try to understand which previous influences have made you like it. If you like some of the things I say and dislike others, you could try to understand why. If you dislike all I say, why not try to find out what has formed your attitude?” (11)

    Yes, it’s all about growing in consciousness, in self-awareness; all about seeking the light beyond all our humanly-constructed (and often arrogantly and fearfully defended) “screens.” I for one like what teachers such as Idries Shah have to say. I also appreciate the efforts of folks like Doris Lessing and Coleman Barks to articulate in everyday language the wisdom of the Sufi Way. I plan on further exploring this way in an ongoing series of posts at The Wild Reed. In particular, I want to explore the Sufi Way and its connections to Christianity (including the idea of Jesus as a Sufi Master*) as well as the Sufi Way and homosexuality.

    Interestingly, I was originally going to title this series, “Contemplating the Sufi Way,” but once I began researching and writing, I soon realized that I’m doing much more than contemplating. I’m already walking the Sufi Way, as are all of us who are striving to live lives of consciousness, conscience, and compassion; we just may not have realized that this term, one among many, exists to name this journey toward union with the Sacred – a journey that is both intimately personal and universal.

    One went to the door of the Beloved and knocked. A voice asked: “Who is there?” He answered: “It is I.” The voice said: “There is no room here for me and thee.” The door was shut. After a year of solitude and deprivation this man returned to the door of the Beloved. He knocked. A voice from within asked: “Who is there?” The man said: “It is Thou.” The door was opened to him.

    – Rumi


    * Chuck Lofy touches on these interesting questions about Christianity and the Sufi Way when, during the interview I conducted with him in 2005, he noted that Jesus said, “I come to cast fire on the earth,” and how, in Christian terms, “this ‘fire’ is the symbol of the Holy Spirit, the guiding and illuminating Spirit that according to the great religious traditions, is deep within all of us. The ‘spark’ comes when we recognize and affirm ourselves as one with this Spirit.”

    1-3. Lessing, D. “Summing Up: When Idries Shah Died.” Daily Telegraph, November 23, 1996. (Also reprinted in Lessing, D. Time Bites: Views and Reviews. Harper Perennial, New York, 2004.
    4. Godlas, A. “Sufism’s Many Paths” at http://www.uga.edu/islam/Sufism.html.
    5-6. Lessing, D. “The Sufis” (first published in Books and Bookmen) in Time Bites: Views and Reviews. Harper Perennial, New York, 2004.
    7. Lessing D. “Summing Up: When Idries Shah Died.” Daily Telegraph, November 23, 1996.
    8. Shah, I. The Way of the Sufi. Penguin Books, 1991 (reprint).
    9. Lessing, D. “The Sufis” (first published in Books and Bookmen) in Time Bites: Views and Reviews. Harper Perennial, New York, 2004.
    10. Barks, C. Rumi: The Book of Love – Poems of Ecstasy and Longing. Harper San Francisco, 2003.
    11. Lessing, D. “The Sufis” (first published in Books and Bookmen) in Time Bites: Views and Reviews. Harper Perennial, New York, 2004.

    Recommended Off-site Links:
    The International Sufi Movement
    Sufi News and Sufism World Report
    Sufis Without Borders
    The Threshold Society

    Recommended Online Articles:
    Rumi and Sufism: Examining Islamic Spiritual Science in the Modern Age – Wajahat Ali (Goatmilk, June 10, 2008).
    Christian and Islamic Mysticism – Thom Curnutte (Ad Dominum, January 2, 2009).
    A Glimpse of Oneness for a Change – Joan Chittister (National Catholic Reporter, November 26, 2008).
    Gay Muslims Reveal Different Evolutionary Stages of Faith Development – Joe Perez (MyOutSpirit.com, November 8, 2007).
    The Mysterious Potential Hiding in Our Pain – Tom Esch (Progressive Catholic Voice, April 2008).

    See also the previous Wild Reed posts:
    In the Garden of Spirituality: Doris Lessing
    My Travels with Doris
    Keeping the Spark Alive: Conversing with “Modern Mystic” Chuck Lofy
    In the Garden of Spirituality: Paulo Coelho
    The Road to Love: Coming Out in Africa and the Middle East
    The Many Manifestations of God’s Loving Embrace
    The Sacred Heart: “Mystical Symbol of Love”