Category: Migrations

  • The Gift of Giving

    This past week I had the privelage of sharing some amazing moments with people who are dear to me. Some got married, some are expecting a bundle of joy (aches and pains aside) and others managed to create – and help me hold on to – a Moment in time.

    Gifts played prominent roles in every joyous moment. It is never so much about the actual gift, than the giver and the spirit in which it is given.

    Unfortunately, I had the displeasure of witnessing a gifting going sour when the receiver couldn’t “accept such an expensive” gift.

    Bad blood now flows where good friendships blossomed.

    A gift not accepted, for whatever reason, is not a rejection of the actual gift – but an act of disrespect towards the giver.

    We must never allow our pride to destroy that which is good, by rejecting that which is freely given.

    Some quotes from QuoteGarden:

    You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give. ~Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

    What is bought is cheaper than a gift. ~Portuguese Proverb

    The only gift is a portion of thyself. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

    We should give as we would receive, cheerfully, quickly, and without hesitation; for there is no grace in a benefit that sticks to the fingers. ~Seneca

    We do not quite forgive a giver. The hand that feeds us is in some danger of being bitten. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson, Essays

    But it is a cold, lifeless business when you go to the shops to buy something, which does not represent your life and talent, but a goldsmith’s. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson, “Gifts,” Essays, Second Series, 1844

    If instead of a gem, or even a flower, we should cast the gift of a loving thought into the heart of a friend, that would be giving as the angels give. ~George MacDonald

    The manner of giving is worth more than the gift. ~Pierre Corneille, Le Menteur

    A hug is a great gift – one size fits all, and it’s easy to exchange. ~Author Unknown

    If you give what can be taken, you are not really giving. Take what you are given, not what you want to be given. Give what cannot be taken. ~Idries Shah

    To give and then not feel that one has given is the very best of all ways of giving. ~Max Beerbohm

    Pleasure is spread through the earth in stray gifts to be claimed by whoever shall find.~William Wordsworth, 1806

    What we are is God’s gift to us. What we become is our gift to God. ~Eleanor Powell

    The Lord loveth a cheerful giver. He also accepteth from a grouch. ~Catherine Hall

    God’s gifts put man’s best dreams to shame. ~Elizabeth Barrett Browning

    God waits to win back his own flowers as gifts from man’s hands. ~Rabindranath Tagore, Stray Birds, 1916

    You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving. ~Author Unknown

    Nothing’s as mean as giving a little child something useful for Christmas. ~Kin Hubbard

    I hate the giving of the hand unless the whole man accompanies it. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

    God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say “thank you?” ~William A. Ward

    Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it. ~William Arthur Ward

    It isn’t the size of the gift that matters, but the size of the heart that gives it. ~Quoted in The Angels’ Little Instruction Book by Eileen Elias Freeman, 1994

    Love is, above all, the gift of oneself. ~Jean Anouilh

  • Tori Amos- Big Wheel video

    http://youtube.com/v/EsoMMerOdM0

    Tori manages to tickle me every time. I love the simplicity of the concept of this video!

  • Positively Geminian

    Mind like a razor
    focus
    butterfly in spring

    My apologies for my digital absence. My attention was diverted, and then again, and again.

    Oh look! what was…

  • Comming out some more

    In recent years I’ve learnt that standing up and saying: “I am…” is incredibly liberating. Not only for myself – but also for the many who suffer in silence, or cower in shadows.

    Like Jack Nicholson as The Joker in Batman – we need to give a name to our pain. For in giving it a name, we take away the mystery and the fear of the unknown. The answer to overcomming our fears, or obstacles, lies in the name as well.

    Here are the names I’ve taken ownership of thusfar:
    1) I am Afrikaans. It is my heritage and my reality. I am not scared of that name.
    2) I am Protestant. I do not denounce other forms of worship, but I do not identify with them either.
    3) I am Gay and I’m fine with it.
    4) My mom has cancer. We’re in it together – for Life!

    Today I realised that I have more to bring to the table. That there is another name in my back pack to share with the world:

    5) I’m Bipolar (type 1).

    I know others are out there – and I’m here to say: “We’re cool”.

    Good night kids,
    W

  • Going the obsessive route

    (aside) My addiction to the HBO series “Carnivale” was abruptly transformed into an obsession. I watched the last episode of series two last night… I’m still struggling to deal with the fact that series two is “all she wrote”. There’s nothing else. All the hanging plot lines are left unresolved.

    I couldn’t sleep last night. Sophie’s transformation bothered me that much! And now that I know there’s no ‘next episode’ – it’s driving me crazy!!

    Why HBO? WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!????????????

    *sob*

  • Effective system needed

    Okay, so I’m trying to commit myself to the cause of missing children (persons) by posting links, images and notices of open cases. Though I believe that the blogosphere and it’s inhabitants can greatly contribute to create awareness – I am not convinced that what I’m doing is enough… or entirely effective.

    A better system is required. It is time for me (and hopefully some of you) to use our knowledge, skills, talents and abilities to create a better system.

    First off – let’s work on a conceptual model:
    1) What approach/es already exist in child protection strategies?
    2) How are missing persons reports dealt with in practice?
    3) What are the pros and cons of these approaches, strategies and practices?
    4) Which technologies are applied in these cases – and which technologies remain untapped?
    5) Who is involved in these cases – and how does one get the broader community actively involved?
    6) What is meant by ‘active involvement’?

    Any thoughts? Any more questions to add? Anything at all?

    I’m looking forward to hearing from you. Together we can come up with a better solution than by ourselves.

  • There are so many…

    The most recent (local) missing children reports are available at www.missingkids.co.za

    Then there’s an even larger, searchable database at za.missingkids.com

  • 1, 2, 3, 4…

    Enough of the silly stuff already. (I happen to believe it’s good to be silly, but more on that later.)

    Today saw the fourth (that I’m aware of) South African girlchild meeting an untimely and horrible death at the hands of a trusted adult. Did you take that in? This means at least four (4) little girls have been brutalised and murdered in the past month! (How many siblings do you have?)

    Earlier today, a three year old girl was tossed from a bridge into the Liebenbergsvlei river (outside Bethlehem), by her father!

    We’ve got to do something.

  • (sa blog awards 2007)… Needs You!!!

    Many of you will have noticed starry buttons suggesting that you click the “vote me” bit for the South African Blog Awards. Kudos to you if you supported blogs you deem worthy! (to those who didn’t: “yu shud reed mawr”)

    Now, for those out there with more of an interest in the aesthetic; pop ’round to muti.co.za/sablogs and vote for a new logo! (This is always fun! Not only do you get to look at all the cool design ideas floating around in sa-space – you also get to take your god-complex for a walk and “choose the sole survivor”!)

    I like this one here 🙂
    This doesn’t mean you have to vote for it too – but you could, if you wanted to.